New Appreciation for Genesis 3:16

Genesis 3:16 states, "To the woman He said,'I will greatly multiply Your pain in childbirth, In pain you will bring forth children;'" (NASB)

I now have a new appreciation for this verse. When Andrea labored and delivered our first two, she had epidurals with both, the first more than the second. I can remember when Caleb was born that all day, Andrea and I had basically just sat in the hospital room, watching tv, until about 3:30pm when the nurse came in and said, "Ok, it's time to push." I was like, "What?" That experience was nothing like I had seen on television.

But yesterday, Andrea had NO epidural; she only had a little "Newbane" (sp?) to take the edge off, and it was really different. I mean she was hurting and uncomfortable for hours before it was time to push. No television yesterday, we were all business. And then when it was time for her to push, boy I really understood Gen.3:16 because it was like the movies. I'm sort of surprised she didn't start calling me dirty names! (haha).

But even through that terrible/wonderful experience... her heart could be seen. She would scream at the mid-wife and nurses when it hurt so bad, and then immediately say "I'm sorry..." which we all thought was kind of funny. But when God said he would greatly multiply her pain in childbirth, He wasn't kidding around.

So, why would God do that? Why would He take such a wonderful experience as the birth of a child and make it so hurtful and sorrowful? Is God just mean and hateful like that? Well, of course God is not mean and hateful; He has nothing or no amount of evil or maliciousness in Him. Everything He does is good and righteous. So, why the pain in childbirth?

Well, I can't say this is the only reason, because knowing God, I'm sure there are more than one. But one reason I believe is because the Lord in His mercy wanted to give a lasting reminder of the consequences of sin. Sin has consequences. Rom 6:23 states, "For the wages of sin is death..." As the human race, we need to remember that our rebellion against God came at a great cost. And if we forget that cost, and seek not His mercy and forgiveness before we die, we will be eternally separated from Him in hell. So, God who is rich in mercy and grace, gave to mankind a perpetual reminder that "Hey, Sin has consequences! And you had better remember that before its eternally too late!"

Another reason for the pain and sorrow might be to remind us that in sin we are conceived and born. Some people have the mistaken understanding that man is born basically good and morally neutral, and that we only turn into bad people because of our environment or upbringing. This is not true Biblically. Kind David stated in Ps.51:5,"Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity, And in sin my mother conceived me." Eccles. 7:20 also states, "For there is not a just man on earth who does good And does not sin." So, the truth of the matter is, man is NOT born basically good or morally neutral. He is born with a sinful nature that has been passed down from one generation to another since the time of Adam and Eve. Man is not a sinner because he sins... He sins because He is a sinner. This reminder is also a gift of mercy because again, we are reminded that we are sinners desperately in need of God's grace and forgiveness.



The good news is that God in His love and grace sent His unique and only Son, Jesus, to be the Savior of the world. Jesus came and paid the ultimate penalty for our salvation. He lovingly and willingly allowed Himself to be crucified so that we might live forever with Him. But how good is a cure if a person doesn't know he's sick? In childbirth, we have a perpetual reminder of our need for Jesus. So, even in something as terrible and sorrowful as labor pains, we see the incredible love and mercy of God.

Kid's Chore Chart

I don't know who's idea it was, whether it was mine or Andrea's, but either way I like it. Our boys, who are only 5 and 3 years old, already have chores that they have to do, some on a daily basis. The picture below is snap shot of our chore chart (you can only see Caleb's part). As you can see the chores are listed on the left side with a corresponding block for each day of the week. And each time they do the chore, they get a star. For example, Caleb's chores are cleaning the table (after a meal), feeding his fish, cleaning his room, emptying the dryer, making his bed, and taking out the bathroom trash. Because all of those are things that he can do. Taite only has 3 things: cleaning up his toys, taking out the recyclables, and emptying the dryer (b/c he helps Caleb do that).And at the end of each week, for every star they have, I give them 1 dime. I know thats not a lot, but I can't afford a quarter for every star and a dime keeps things simple. So, why are we doing this?

Well, because I want to start early teaching my children about the value of hard work and about the proper and correct use of money. When I was growing up, I never received any form of allowance. And even though I know my Dad's reasoning (everything I had he provided), I still think I would have benefited from personally learning how to use, save, and be generous with my own money. As they get older, the chores will increase in quantity, and their value will go up as well. But for now, I think this is a good start.